Walking Toward the Light!

Moving Energy from Fear to Love

Fear is hardwired into modern society. From the time we are walking, we have been told no roughly 400 times a day! This alone sets our brain up to live in a way of fear. Most of us don’t even know that there is another way to live. 

You can choose to live your life from a place of love and you don’t need to wait for a disaster to hit to do it. Health scares are among the top reasons people chose to live differently, but you don’t need to wait for a health crisis to revolutionize your life. 

Take control of your life before tragedy hits 

Wake up and stop walking the path of fear. If you are staying in a job or hanging on to a relationship out of fear I am pleading with you to stop. 

I understand why you’re doing it, but we all know where these roads lead.

What lights you up? Not what you think should light you up. Many of us choose a career or a partner because of fear, and we are never taught anything different.

I was at the park last week and a little girl was showing her mom a stick arrangement she had made in the mud. Her mom was taking a picture of her daughter next to it when the little girl proclaimed with a twirl, “I’m going to be an artist!”

The mom, without hesitation, responded, “Not unless you’re married to a doctor honey. You don’t want to be poor do you?”

Even as I write this I’m getting teary-eyed. What if the next Picasso just got buried in that mud. A part of my heart did. A part of all of us does. 

  • When you were first called ugly your thoughts on comparison started. 
  • When you were first told you were fat, body dysmorphia began. 
  • When you were first called dumb, you began to question your self-worth.

Even the mom, who wants the best for her little girl, is placing her fears onto her daughter. 

But there is another way! 

The fear you feel about being alone, or unloved, or not enough can be transformed into something beautiful by choosing to walk the path of love. 

  • You don’t have to push your body too hard at the gym to punish yourself for eating unhealthy the day before.
  • You don’t have to stay in that toxic relationship because it’s going to be hard to leave and risk being alone.
  • You don’t have to put up with an unhealthy work environment because the money is good.
  • You don’t have to sacrifice your happiness out of fear. 

All of the things you’re currently doing out of fear can go away when you decide to change the energy around them. When you decide to transform your mind to a new philosophy and move from fear to love, the energy you carry around things will change.

It starts with awareness.

Once you are aware of your fear-based thoughts the energy around them begins to change. Once acknowledged, it is no longer hidden away in the dark. Light brings a different energy and sometimes becoming aware is the transformation. 

Other times, it takes more work. 

Awareness is the first key. But the thing with awareness is that once you are aware of a problem you must make the choice to do something about it. This is where so many people give up. Choosing to take ownership of our lives is challenging. It’s easy to live a small miserable life. Just look around, we all do it in some ways and we reflect it in each other. 

We tell each other stories like…

  • Relationships are hard
  • I don’t get along with women/men
  • At least I have a job
  • I earned this cheesecake

Only you can hold yourself accountable. 

As Seth Godin likes to say, “Putting yourself on the hook.”

Part of changing your energy around fear is choosing something different than the day before. This is where things get sticky. 

It’s time to own your role in your current circumstance and choose a different path. This might look like switching your internal dialog to…

  • I choose to eat healthy because I love my body.
  • I choose to accept my family for who they are because I love them and trust them to walk their own path towards love.
  • I choose to get up early and meditate because it clears my head for a busy day.
  • I choose to wait for Mr. Right instead of settling for the wrong person. 

Take Back Your Power

No one is going to go to the gym or eat healthy for you. You must choose to walk the path to self-love and begin these healthy rituals on your own. It will take some work, but once you see how good you can feel it will get easier. 

Now that you feel better you start to look back and wonder why you ever let yourself feel so bad. Energy attracts energy, so the road of fear you were walking comes to a crossroads with love and now you can start living in this new path. The way you were meant to live; in love. 

A whole new world will open up to you once you decide that you are worth living in alignment with love. Love is our natural state. Just look at any baby and you can see the trust and love. They don’t question the way they look, or their intelligence, they just live in the energy of love and let their needs be met. 

You can too. 

Sure being an adult takes more than crying to get our needs met, but that’s the joy. Taking responsibility can feel overwhelming but how do you feel now? Is living in fear serving you? Or are you just surviving? What energy are you bringing into your life? And what energy would you like to attract? 

You have the power in you to make that shift now! And it begins with awareness. Meet me on the path to love. There are others here, like us, encouraging and helpful and unlearning their fear-based mindset so we can light up the world together. 

Breaking the Habit of Hesitation

Release the Idea of Needing Motivation, and Start Taking Action Today!

Many aspiring entrepreneurs constantly live in a state of limbo. They have great ideas, but they’re not quite sure if they should pursue them or not because it could be too risky. The thought of taking the leap into something new is paralyzing to some people– and for good reason! It can be an intimidating task, which is why I’m here to tell you that there’s no need to hesitate anymore. 

You don’t have to keep waiting around for someone else to invest in your idea; just take action and start making things happen. If you’re uncomfortable then you are on the right track. If this sounds like you then this blog post is perfect because it’s time we break the habit of hesitation once and for all.

It’s easy to look at someone you admire who has success and start to believe that they possess something you don’t. That success came easy to them or that they are full of motivation. You’ve bought into this idea that at some point you too will have the courage and confidence to pursue your dreams. 

You know how it goes… 

  • Once I have more money I will do it.
  • Once I lose weight I will start.
  • Once the kids are out of the house I can focus on myself.
  • Once I get that promotion things will change.

These hesitations are keeping you stuck. I know because I’ve been there too, and I know that someday will never come unless you decide to make it happen. 

Right now.

Where you are.

With what you have.

Begin Today!

I have a lifelong friend who is such an inspiration. She’s a single mom who started her custom clothing line while living in a 500 square-foot studio apartment. She’d always wanted to go for it, but the time was never right. Stuck at home with an infant and in a place of needing to figure it out, she went all in. 

Today she has a successful clothing line making custom clothes exclusively for the wives, girlfriends, parents, and children of professional athletes. A niche industry that caters to helping family members stand out in the stadium on game day. 

She created a market out of need and found success when she let hesitation go. 

She was not confident when she was setting up her printer between the baby’s crib and the small kitchen surface she had. But she decided to go for it and it completely changed her life. 

Hesitation Brings Doubt

Somewhere along the line, we decided it was more comfortable to stay stuck dreaming about our future lives than actually taking the steps to create that dream life. We started relying on the voice of hesitation. Our brains are designed to protect us from danger and anything unknown is a potential threat. Hesitation is our reasoning mind thinking it’s keeping us safe. But in order to start that business, be that partner, follow that dream, you are going to have to spend a little time in uncertainty.

Mel Robbin’s book, “The 5 Second Rule”, talks about this. She says it’s responsible for changing the course of her life. She says “If you have an instinct to act on a goal, you must physically move within 5 seconds or your brain will kill it.” She suggests when you have an idea you give yourself 5 seconds to act on it. Literally doing a 5-4-3-2-1 countdown to propel you into action. 

When you think about all the things you’re going to do tomorrow it’s easy. Your mind is motivated to say…

  • I’m going to get up early and meditate tomorrow
  • I’m going to start eating healthily tomorrow
  • I’m starting my gym routine tomorrow
  • I’m starting to put pen to paper on my book tomorrow

And you really mean it! You’re seriously ready. But then the next day you just aren’t motivated to do it. You’ve already hesitated on the idea, what’s one more day? You can always start tomorrow. And it’s true, you can always start tomorrow, but if you’re waiting for motivation or courage, or confidence to get started then you will never begin.

As amazing as your ideas are, nothing happens if you don’t get yourself up and moving. 

You’re never going to feel like doing the scary stuff–the stuff that requires learning new skills that intimidate you like taking control of your finances or learning the dynamics of solid SEO skills. You will always only feel motivated to do the things that are easy and that feel good. But I’m sorry to tell you that is not the way to success. 

Successful people show up and do the work even when they aren’t motivated or sure what will happen. They understand that it’s more important to be consistent than to be motivated or confident. They just keep on keepin on.

Breathwork for Hesitation

When you feel a strong urge to move on something and hesitate, your brain starts to rationalize all the reasons why you are right for hesitating. You can train yourself to act by utilizing Mel Robbins 5 Second rule, or you can turn to your breath. 

Whenever I have a big decision to make I sit down on my mat and breathe. I ask for clarity and do alternate nostril breathing, balancing out the two hemispheres of my brain so I can get in tune with my inner knowing. Using that knowledge–that gut feeling that my heart is leading me to do–I can easily begin down a road without hesitation. Now having a foundation of trust within my heart. 

Intuitively I always know which way I want to go, but when I hesitate doubt will have me sitting in limbo for far too long. Alternate nostril breathing has helped push that mind-chatter out, leaving me clear and concise on the direction I need to go. 

Alternate Nostril Breathing

  • Find a comfortable seat on a meditation pillow.
  • Be sure you are sitting with a nice straight spine, shoulders rolled back and down, with your chin slightly tucked. 
  • Close your eyes and begin to focus on your breath.
  • Ask yourself: Why am I hesitating on this decision?
  • Place your right hand in a pranayama mudra (fancy hand placement) by tucking your first two fingers into the palm of your hand, allowing the ring and pinky to remain as straight as possible. 
  • Bring your right thumb up to plug your right nostril and inhale for 4 seconds starting through the left nostril only. 
  • Use your ring and pinky figures to pinch the left nostril as you hold your breath.
  • Release your thumb from the right side and exhale for 4 seconds. 
  • Stay here and inhale into your right nostril for 4 seconds.
  • Pinch your thumb to your right nostril while holding your breath.
  • Release your ring and pinky fingers and exhale 4 seconds out of your left nostril.
  • You have completed 1 full round. 
  • Repeat these steps for 5-10 more rounds to find balance and clarity.

However you decide to work on your habit of hesitation is fine. We all have different ways of moving into clarity. The reality is that there is more information in this world and choices to be made than you have time for. So decide what is the right path for you and then get out of your way so you can do the work. 

Doubt will always be there, but it doesn’t need to be behind the wheel. Take control of your life by moving into a place of action and see how quickly things begin to change. 

I’d love to hear from you! Let me know how alternate nostril breathing is working for your decision-making or what other tips and tricks you use to help beat the hesitation within you.