Why doing the uncomfortable will help you succeed
Do you ever look at successful people and think, Wow! I can do that. You think to yourself, that’s an easy job, or that you have more skill in the subject? Yeah me too. This might be true, you might be more skilled or passionate about something the pros are doing, but here’s the secret…People at the top of their profession are willing to do the work that most of us aren’t willing to do.
We have been fed a lie that we can just manifest our dreams into reality. I am a firm believer in the visualization process and agree with the idea that we can speak and act our way into believing certain things to promote a healthier life and mindset. Manifesting is something that can and does happen, but we forget about the work that goes on behind the scenes.
When you begin to open your life up to new potential you have to put in some work. You must be prepared to dance with the universe in the direction of your dreams.
A romantic partner isn’t going to find you sitting on your couch, you have to put yourself out there to be noticed and seen. Same goes for that dream job where you are making a real impact in the lives of others, or eating a healthy diet. You can visualize all these things perfectly in your head, but if you aren’t willing to show up for the dance then you will be no closer to your dreams than you are right now.
Sitting on your couch listening to podcasts and reading about the successes of others is great, but only if it is followed up by action.
The most successful people in the world are willing to do the work that most people put off until tomorrow. They have learned to love the uncomfortable moments that help them grow. They do not run away from hard conversations or say they’ll start tomorrow. They commit and do it now. They get out of bed and hit the gym, they look at their finances, they take responsibility and they do the work.
Humans are designed for reward
We live in a society of instant gratification. A dopamine drip that keeps us plugged into social media rewards and endless packages showing up at our door.
- Do you really need these mindless likes and followers to justify your existence?
- Are the things bought bringing you true satisfaction?
These are distractions. Distractions that take you off the work you don’t want to do. The work that takes focus, time, research, and work before the reward is given.
Those leaders you are looking up to have decided that they would learn to love the uncomfortable space of doing the stuff they don’t want to do. They have decided to make the conversation in their head positive about their daily habits so they can focus on the big rewards. The rewards of writing a book, of gaining a platform, or taking charge of their finances, and health. Above all, they have decided that their life is worth it.
Your life is worth pushing out of your comfort zone too. And the only thing holding you back is your unwillingness to do the things you don’t want to do.
The more you teach yourself to be comfortable in doing things you don’t want to do, the faster your goals will fly towards you.
Learning to be uncomfortable
It starts with recognizing when you are choosing to shy away from a challenge. It doesn’t matter if it’s big or small.
The challenge for me is always sitting down and looking at my finances. This has always been something that makes me uncomfortable. At some point I decided that if I didn’t know what’s going on with my money it was somehow easier to manage. Deciding to get involved and see what I was really spending my money on and what my in and outflow really looked like was super uncomfortable and I did not like what I saw.
The conversation for me started with turning something I put off for years looking or dealing with to one of acceptance. I say to myself, I am choosing financial freedom by getting my finances under control. This statement reminds me that looking at my finances is more inline with where I want to be than my old way of avoiding the uncomfortable.
Honestly it felt like a lie at first because of my lifelong avoidance of keeping track of it, but it is inline with where I am headed as an entrepreneur and leader. This is a practice that I choose every time I want to avoid this uncomfortable task.
Noticing the limits of others
I have an amazing friend who has a talent for building community in her field. She is in high demand, yet she is constantly turning down opportunities because it feels uncomfortable for her to have a schedule. Stating it doesn’t feel organic enough.
To that I say any leader, high-performer, or master of their field that you can name didn’t just show up when they felt like it. NO! They showed up and put in the work when they didn’t want to, when it didn’t feel organic. They showed up when they would rather be in bed. They showed up when they would rather be at that party. They showed up when they would rather watch their favorite television show. They showed up, they worked, and they gained the skills and knowledge to make every moment feel organic because it was never a question of where their focus was.
We forget that the successful person has years of hard dedicated work behind them. That the overnight success stories took time and commitment. We don’t see the blood, sweat, and tears they endured to stand in front of us now, polished and with a certain amount of ease. And it will be the same for you. Once you are committed to doing the work and allowing the uncomfortable to be present and a part of your experience, you will fly towards your destination as it will begin to be reflected in all you do. No one will see the early mornings and late nights you put in. No one will see the jet lag you experience from doing too much.
There will be others who look at you as the success story they judge. They will believe they can easily do what you do and with more skill. They will think these things while sitting comfortably on their couch wandering what’s holding them back.
Decide to take the leap
It takes only a moment to decide to see and do things differently. Not everything at once, but the next best thing to move you to the dance floor of your own life. The universe is waiting.